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imagine everybody will at least laugh a little bit in my article today. But
Paula Span for the New York Times wrote an article Sex in Assisted Living: Intimacy Without Privacy.
Older bodies having sex is something that has what I call “oooh” response! It does remind me of Billy Crystal recounting the story when he discovered his parents having an intimate moment on the kitchen table. From a child's point of view that's an "oooh" moment! Another person might think “icky pooh”.
But apparently this is a problem in assisted living. Older couples are often interrupted by people coming in at any time of the day. Lack of privacy and even lack of respect can become part of an issue. Health and dementia cause various problems to be sure.
But living and the experience of life you know continues for a long time and with some couples they can remain in relationship sexually into their 90s. In our youth orientated society we are uncomfortable with older people and thinking you know of them in sexual situations. Seniors raised in the 30’s, 40,s and 50’s have different values from the baby boomers starting to moving into these communities.
Often married couples and romantic couples are moved away from each other into different rooms, or even at different tables in the dining room. While I think this is probably good with situations that are abusive or unwanted; I think it's a violation rights for those that are consensual. Married couples I believe have to be handled with dignity and respect. Health for one or both may be a problem.
Older bodies having sex is something that has what I call “oooh” response! It does remind me of Billy Crystal recounting the story when he discovered his parents having an intimate moment on the kitchen table. From a child's point of view that's an "oooh" moment! Another person might think “icky pooh”.
But apparently this is a problem in assisted living. Older couples are often interrupted by people coming in at any time of the day. Lack of privacy and even lack of respect can become part of an issue. Health and dementia cause various problems to be sure.
But living and the experience of life you know continues for a long time and with some couples they can remain in relationship sexually into their 90s. In our youth orientated society we are uncomfortable with older people and thinking you know of them in sexual situations. Seniors raised in the 30’s, 40,s and 50’s have different values from the baby boomers starting to moving into these communities.
Often married couples and romantic couples are moved away from each other into different rooms, or even at different tables in the dining room. While I think this is probably good with situations that are abusive or unwanted; I think it's a violation rights for those that are consensual. Married couples I believe have to be handled with dignity and respect. Health for one or both may be a problem.
If
you have read the Bible Abraham (100) and Sarah (90) were intimate and Abraham,
David and others were old when they were intimate with others. Sex has always
had its complications.
A sexual life is a reality for those who have health for long time. And we should expect it and encourage healthy sexual life whenever possible. I value marriage. Romance is not only good for the soul but its also good for the heart. And it's good for our immune systems which fight cancer and also it helps with diabetes.
Aging and health may also put a decline to sexual activity with people and we need to be understanding.
There are problems with a growing number of sexually-transmitted diseases. Dementia often causes a breakdown of inhibitions. And while there is sexual activity that is consensual there's also sexual activity that is not. Anyway it's a part of living and that living continues. Read Paula Span’s article and think through both the living well and problems that may occur. Get over “oooh”! Keep walking
A sexual life is a reality for those who have health for long time. And we should expect it and encourage healthy sexual life whenever possible. I value marriage. Romance is not only good for the soul but its also good for the heart. And it's good for our immune systems which fight cancer and also it helps with diabetes.
Aging and health may also put a decline to sexual activity with people and we need to be understanding.
There are problems with a growing number of sexually-transmitted diseases. Dementia often causes a breakdown of inhibitions. And while there is sexual activity that is consensual there's also sexual activity that is not. Anyway it's a part of living and that living continues. Read Paula Span’s article and think through both the living well and problems that may occur. Get over “oooh”! Keep walking
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